We Are The World…Being Humane

There comes a time, when we hear a certain call
When the world must come together as one
There are people dying
Oh it’s time to lend a hand…

This is a song that took the music world and the human world by storm when it was released. Musically, it was a brilliant piece of composition comprising of more than 25 singers. Humanely, it touched a chord in everyone who heard it. There have been many people who have cried after listening to this song…yours truly included.  We care

The world has been coming together as one in times of war, strife, calamities, terrors. Yes, we have to be grateful that people rally around in difficult times. We need people most around us at that point. What I think would be more gratifying is when people come together as one even in happy times. That I feel will be the easiest way to spread more positivity around us.

I attended a global conference of networkers in Malaysia last week conducted by the QI Group. I have been attending this conference for the last four years. This year we celebrated Mother’s Day during the conference. Every speaker on stage that day paid tribute to not only their mothers, but to mothers all over the world. Of course the audience saluted this gesture…about 55% of the audience were women!!!

This got me thinking about how the concept of motherhood binds all humanity. I mean there is no difference between a mother’s love in Kenya or Canada or Cambodia. All mothers are the same…world over 🙂 :). Meeting and interacting with people from more than 50 countries brought home another point. Human beings are pretty much the same world over…at the very basic emotional, mental & spiritual level. Physically/physiologically we are different..sure that makes us interesting also.

Here is what I think binds and bonds people together and this is my take away from the conference itself.

1. Everyone wants to be respected. More than 11,000 people attending this conference in Penang, would walk into the stadium quickly with no pushing, pulling or breaking the queues. Respect – the bedrock of any relationship anywhere in the world. I would rather be respected than be loved…my take…if I am respected, love will follow sometime.

2. Smile – it costs nothing. The most endearing expression that can connect you to anyone…from a child to an elderly person. A smile that comes straight from the heart, reaches your eyes and manifests on your lips can accomplish a lot.

3. Listen and listen with your heart…not just hear with your ears. Very often we do not listen to understand intent, we listen to only reply. Listening is actually the secret to discover great stories. Suffice it to say that every good conversation begins with good listening.

4. Humor is a great equalizer. When sharing a good joke you break more ice with people. And we have a lot of common things that we can joke about without hurting sentiments. A common thing that kept everyone rolling with laughter at the conference were mother in law  jokes…that humor transcended all geographical boundaries.

5. Love makes the world go round. Love is critical for any human being to live a fulfilling life. Love can arise out of a common vision, a common goal, dream and we can connect with people across the globe with this one emotion. Mountains can be moved if this emotion is strong enough in all of us.  Rythm

6. Inclusiveness – people like to be included and not ignored when they are in a group or together. Unfortunately we focus more on dividing people based on categories. We also forget that these categories are made for specific purposes that create exclusiveness first, and then, divide people permanently. Inclusiveness resolves this.

A testimony to all that I have written above is the beautiful concept of RYTHM NATION created by the QI Group. RYTHM stands for Raise Yourself To Help Mankind and 11,000 participants became part of that nation with one vision that they were focused on – to be successful networkers and fulfil their dreams.

 

La mia vita … le mie condizioni! My life…my terms!

I was reading an interview by Sophia Loren and her response to a question by the interviewer made me smile…big time 🙂

Interviewer: “Ms Loren, how would you say life has treated you?”

Sophia Loren: “Life doesn’t treat me…I treat life by living it on my terms.”

This brought to mind a question…is there any other way to live?

When I was a child & growing up, I was made to feel that I could conquer the world and nothing was impossible. This created in me an insatiable desire to achieve and achieve. It led to me becoming competitive. You may ask…what’s wrong with that.

Everything! Everything because I was competing with the external world. However, this was something I did not understand for a very very long time in my life. With every new achievement in my life there was a sense of exultation which I mistook for happiness. Or maybe it was happiness at that moment.living life quotes (4)

Funny things happen as you grow older. There was a kind of restlessness in me that I could not get over with. And it persisted. I had two choices then – either I continue to live with that restlessness or acknowledge it and do something about it. The question was what do I do?

It was time for some soul searching in my life…the only answer that came back to me again and again was a quote by an unknown person…”What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?” Failure still made a difference…it was so ingrained in me that I could not fail. Some more soul searching led me to read Napolean Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich” in which he says “What if you fail?” That got me thinking…would I faint or worse would I die if failed? It was more to do with what would others think? Failure isn’t expected of me in any role that I play in my life. How many of us go through our lives with this foundation???

Books have always been my best friends…and I started finding my answers. It was then that I realised that the competitive spirit I had all my life had to be directed in a totally opposite direction. I had to compete with myself…if I had to grow as a human being. And since then my life changed…and how!!!

Once I discovered I could design my life in ways that I had only dreamt of earlier…it was an addiction. And it got it me hooked! Since then I have lived my life based on my dreams, wild, free and with integrity. I have been true to what my heart says…not what logic says. This has bought an insatiable desire to edify everyone who came into my life. Because everyone taught me something that I could use to lead a joyous life. live ur dreams

This in turn helped me become more and more fearless…in my mind. That was the most liberating feeling! It got me in touch with my own self…forgiving myself, loving myself and therefore healing myself. So, in the spirit of that love and freedom I am sharing 18 quotes that I live my life by…challenging everyone out there to live life on their own terms. Go ahead…do it folks…you will never look back with regret.

My Life…My Terms Building Blocks

1. Be grateful for what you have…all magic stems from gratitude.

2. “If you’re not willing to go all the way, don’t start the journey at all!” — Charlemagne

3. You are more important than you realize.

4. Be the type of person you want to meet.

5. Be so good that they can’t ignore you!

6. Wear your invisible crown every single day. Only then will you be treated like a king or a queen. 

7. “Don’t do anything you don’t believe in.” — Russell Simmons

8. Don’t change so someone will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you!

9. Understand what you tolerate. You will also realize why you tolerate.

10. Always always pay attention to your relationship with yourself.

11. Sometimes life is all about dolce far niente – it is all about the sweetness of doing nothing.

12. “Make no small plans for they cannot stir your soul.” Machiavelli

13. “Feet? Why do I need them when I have wings to fly.” Frida Kahlo

14. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds…explore, dream, discover” Mark Twain

15. Be drawn by what you really love. You will never go astray.12-morning-quotes-to-start-your-day7

16. Never be afraid to make mistakes or change courses mid stream. It is better to put your heart and soul into something you are passionate about rather than work on mediocrity.

17. It’s important to dream, plan and act. More fundamental is to believe.

18. Never ever give up on yourself, your dreams or your life.

Time to get out of bed every morning feeling excited about life…to be charmed by what the universe has to offer and pick and choose what you want for your dream life. Celebrate your life!!!