There was once a group of learned Buddhist monks who spent all their time in scholastic debate.
As part of their banter they would often wonder, half-joking, half-seriously, which one of them would attain enlightenment first. Whenever this topic came up, the only thing they could all agree on was that it would not be Stupid, the illiterate monk who was capable only of sweeping the monastery floor and whom nobody has any time for.
Of course, it was Stupid who got enlightened first. The jealous monks went to the Abbot. How come Stupid had attained enlightenment first? Had he been overhearing their intellectual conversations?
“Not at all,” replied the Abbot. “It’s just that while he was sweeping the corners of the monastery he made sure he was also sweeping the corners of his mind.”
See what happens when you start sweeping the corners of your mind and accept certain things. Read on. It was the coldest winter ever, and many animals died because of the cold.
The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together. This way they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions even though they shared their heat with each other.
After awhile, they decided to distance themselves one from the other to stop being wounded.As they did this, they began to die… alone and frozen.
So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth. Wisely, they decided to go back to being together.
This way they learned to live with the little wounds that were caused by the close relationship with their companion, but the most important part of it, was the heat that came from the others that enabled them to survive the coldest winter ever.
Relationships are like that in our life. Not every time in a relationship we will find the going smooth. There will be ups and downs…just like the porcupines felt earlier. However, when you look at what you are going to lose by staying away, then it is better to adjust to the few quills and build the relationship.
Our relationships with people around us influence our lives. We are positive, highly energetic with similar people…on the other hand, we also get depressed when negative people touch our lives. I personally tend to run away from such negative people!
Your relationship with people is a reflection of your emotional health, your emotional quotient. It tells you how well you can handle your emotions. It also reflects your love for the self. So if you think that people around do not love you, it means that you do not love yourself……………..
Today take a good look at your relationship with your mother. Is it 100% perfect? Do you find any faults in her? Does she find any fault in you? Since the mother – child relationship is meant to be unconditional, & we find faults there also…it is bound to happen in our other relationships.
As we grow older, evolve and mature…..accept ourselves a little more…. love ourselves a little more… This gets reflected in our relationships. As we grow comfortable with ourselves, we become comfortable with our relationships too.
So…go ahead and give your relationships time, love, affection and care. When we build those bonds we must remember the following:
1. Building a relationship is like sowing.
2. You reap what you sow.
3. You always reap at a later date.
4. You always reap multiple times.
So…go ahead and sow the seeds that you want to 🙂 🙂 🙂