The moment I talk about goals, I get two kinds of responses: “why do I need goals…let me just take life as it comes along” and the second, “sure, goals are important…but you know what…”.
Both have the same end result. No goals. However I am not writing about why we need to have goals…most people do have goals. It is achieving them that is a challenge.
When I have set goals and failed to achieve them…very often I have realized that the emotional connect to my goal was missing. So, the first lesson I learnt was that goal setting is not a feel good factor. We don’t set goals and forget about them. We set goals because they really matter to us. We do want to achieve them. If your reason for setting your goal is not sincere, your motivation and enthusiasm can wane drastically as you progress on your goal path. Setting personal goals is just that – personal, and if you do not have deep-rooted reason for your goal, your chances of succeeding are reduced dramatically.
Dream big with goal posts.
The old saying – shoot for the moon, if you miss you’ll still be in the stars. We all had big dreams when we were kids. What happened to most of us as we grew up? Precisely that…we grew up! Universally we are conditioned that as we grow up in life, our life has to be practical, logical, realistic etc etc. And the dream of being an astronaut, flying a hot air balloon, becoming a businessman, umpiring a tennis match, everything flies out of the window. My submission to all such people…man is the only living being on earth who can dream! So dream big…have smaller goal posts to achieve those dreams. The smaller goals posts will tell you whether you are on track or not.
If Edison hadn’t dreamed, I would not have been writing this blog 🙂
Write & Review.
Writing down your goals creates the roadmap to your success. Although just the act of writing them down can set the process in motion, it is also extremely important to review your goals frequently. Remember, the more focused you are on your goals the more likely you are to accomplish them.
Sometimes we realize we have to revise a goal as circumstances and other goals change, much like I did with being an entrepreneur. If you need to change a goal do not consider it a failure, consider it a victory as you had the insight to realize something was different.
It is a good idea to give yourself small regular rewards for taking incremental steps towards achieving your goals. This is in addition to rewarding yourself in a bigger way when you reach your ultimate goal. For example, I treat myself to a spa once in a while for taking action on my high priority goal every day of the week.
Be sure the reward is something that really motivates you to take action. Plan in advance what the reward will be, that way you will motivate yourself.
I’ve saved the best for the last. Willpower. Once you realize you only have so much will power everything becomes clearer. So stop beating yourself up about not being able to change. The thing is that we only have so much will power in our mind and body to make changes. Will power runs out like a muscle that becomes tired. It’s extremely important to ask yourself the following questions.
During the 24 hours I have each day, what do I truly, truly, truly wish to focus on? If you find yourself eating too much junk, watching too much television or shopping needlessly you have run out of will power.
What can I do to get more will power ? Usually your goal , keeping that goal in mind and making sure you live according to your core personal values should be enough….right? Yes…that and make a pledge to either yourself or someone else. You pledge money, something valuable or your self respect.
Stay tuned to yourself and your goals…:)