My Reality…Your Reality

The power of a person’s reality can have tremendous impact on how he shapes his future. What do we mean by this?

Keep repeating the statement, “I Can’t” at least 50 times and see the impact it has on you. By the end of the day, this would become your reality & you really can’t. On the contrary, keep repeating, “I Can” and “I am”. The positive reinforcement will attract factors that will enable you to achieve. This is also reality…but this is again your reality.

So, what is the difference between the two realities. Here is an example to illustrate this. We all know who invented the aircraft…the Wright Brothers. What do you think happened when they explained their idea of a human being able to fly. As usual, most people laughed while some others adopted the wait & watch style. However, the Wright Brothers did not give up their idea.

The brothers were also smart. They knew they faced risks in terms of flying first, but they were not risky. They chose a large flat piece of land to experiment and experiment they did – for five years, till they were able to fly a few inches above the ground and for less than a minute. Like all smart people they accounted for failures and decided to fail on flat ground rather than any other place. They also continued to practice failing till they could fly. Because they could take risks wisely, they changed the world forever!

Here’s what worked for them –
Reality (humans can’t fly) + Idea (humans can fly) = Possibility (invention of aircraft)

Did they get opposition – sure they did. Now, let’s look at our reality. A lot of us want to do different things in life. Do we get opposition when we express those wants…sure we do! What kind of statements do we hear –
“You can’t do something like this …this is not for you”
“You don’t have the experience so & so has…”
“You really don’t think this kind of money is possible”…and so on.

What are these folks telling us? Where are they coming from? They are coming from their reality. Their reality has conditioned them to make such statements.

Whereas my reality tells me
“I am able to help people understand what I want”
“I am building something valuable in my life through my relationships ”
“I am reaching my goal of financial independence and then freedom”

How different are these groups from each other? Very different…

People in the first group are stuck in their reality. They are unwilling to change their reality & move. As a result the perceptions get built accordingly and perception becomes reality.

People in my reality group understand the need to change reality based on opportunities. Every opportunity is explored and understood to shift paradigms.

The question now is how do we change our reality. By leveraging of course. There is a catch here – do not leverage others before you start leveraging yourself. In other words, leverage your mind. Our mind is the most powerful tool and what we think becomes reality in most cases. As the old adage goes…”what the mind thinks becomes flesh…” For example someone who thinks that investing in the stock market is risky, will look for information to substantiate his/her reality. So all the news they read or hear from others will relate to how people have lost money in the stock market.

The mind has the power to see what it believes as reality, thereby blinding it to other realities. Just as people told the Wright Brothers that humans can’t fly, we will have people tell us that what we want in life is either impossible or may not be possible only for us.

Therefore, what is my reality?
My reality is to leverage my mind in the most positive way to make things happen for people whom I take responsibility. So, I constantly expand my reality to accommodate shifts around me. Changing reality doesn’t necessarlity mean bigger things. It simply means changing a point of view & experiencing a paradigm shift and not getting to a stage of “Who Moved My Cheese”

Now that’s another perception altogether…:) 🙂 🙂

“What Goes Around Comes Around.”

One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.

Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn’t look safe; he looked poor and hungry. He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you. He said, “I’m here to help you, ma’am. Why don’t you wait in the car where it’s warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson.”

Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.
As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn’t thank him enough for coming to her aid.

Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.
He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, “And think of me.”
He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.

A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn’t erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan.

After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.

There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: “You don’t owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I’m helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you.”
Under the napkin were four more $100 bills.

Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard….
She knew how worried her husband was, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, “Everything’s going to be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson.”

There is an old saying “What goes around comes around”

Dreams Do Pay My Bills!

On a cold winter morning, a snail started to climb a cherry tree.

A few sparrows on the neighboring tree made fun of the snail and laughed at his expense. They flew over to the snail and said, “Hey slow coach, there are no cherries on the tree!”

The snail looked at them & said, “There will be when I get there.”

This story made me sit up and think. We only live one life. There are no do-overs.  If we let time slip by without pursuing our desires, then we may miss our true calling in life.  How does one start to pursue their desires?  I want to share some thoughts today related to this.

Unleash Your Dreams!

Stop holding back on thinking about the desire that is deep in your heart.  It may have been there for a long time or it could be brand new.  It may be a quiet little whisper telling you to start your own business or it may be a roaring lion urging you to go back to school.  However your dream speaks to you right now, stop and listen.  Give it a chance.    Don’t squash your desires without even giving them a chance to blossom!

The Magic of Thinking Big.

Dreams & desires often make us uncomfortable, especially if they are big. Somewhere, we get conditioned to cutting corners, snipping our dreams every now & then. And lo! One fine day we realize that the dream was just that – a dream! I have always been a dreamer & I learned from other dreamers to let my dream expand.  Unpack your desires and let them grow on paper and in your mind.  Simmer the ideas for awhile.  Discuss your dream with a trusted friend.  It is amazing how something as simple as this often becomes the first step toward realizing progress toward a suppressed desire.  My desire to write began as some simple ideas jotted in a diary whenever the mood caught me. It was a friend’s blog that totally inspired me to go online. 

Don’t Be Afraid To Fail.

I am guilty of this. Whenever I did not reach a goal I realized that it was because of my fear of failure. “Wake Up and Live” by Dorothea Brande helped me in understanding what would you do today if you knew without a doubt that it was impossible to fail?  It is a compelling question, isn’t it?  Fear is often hard to overcome.  However, the killer part is that we have so much more to lose by not trying at all. Fear is all in our mind.  We cannot let it rob us of our dreams!  Starting acting as if you cannot fail.

Dreams Do Pay My Bills!!!

Contrary to what most people believe, dreams do pay my bills. Most people believe that we cannot make a living at our dream.  However, there are a ton of people that have.  In fact, we usually make more money by doing something we love.  Of course, you have to pursue things in a thoughtful way.  If you are supporting your family, please don’t quit your job to pursue your dream without an alternate source of income. You need to keep telling yourself that it is possible until you start believing it…it worked for me and I am sure it will for you too.

Help Others With Their Dreams.

The more I have been a Go Giver, the more I get out of life. In service to people around me in whatever way possible is a practice that took me a while to follow. It has also brought me immense joy, not to mention the fun I have had! Structure your dream in such a way that it helps other people and then really go the extra mile in serving them. Helping others bring their dreams into reality is a great way to leap ahead with your own. 

Never Ever Give Up.

The thought of giving up means to die a slow death. The older I get, the more I believe that a lot of the difference between success and failure is perseverance.  We often expect too much too soon. Pace yourself.  Don’t burnout and give up.  This is the biggest danger to our success.  Keep trudging along even when you don’t feel like it.  It is okay to take a break, but don’t quit. Very often I have found that I have achieved small victories just when I thought it was the end! Success is not for quitters.

Dreams are there to follow…they exist to create a purpose in our life. Our job is to simply follow them. Start with simple steps and see the momentum build up. 

Here’s wishing you all a “Just Do It” day ahead!!!

We Are The World!

We Are The World!

Always wait for something good and it happens, because whatsoever happens, we create. In fact we sow the seeds…mostly unconsciously. And because of this we think negative things happen to us. Everything is absolutely based on a fundamental ultimate law: nothing ever goes wrong. Yes, sometimes it looks to us as if it has gone wrong, because we were expecting something else.

Therein lies the problem –  we sow seeds of one flower and we expect flowers of a different kind. Then when we see different flowers, we are frustrated. The old adage is so true…what we sow is what we reap! Therefore, we constantly create our world. There are people who are constantly afraid that something wrong is going to happen, and then it happens! And when it happens, they are proved right. They have made it happen. People who are loving will always find situations where love blooms.

Our existence gives us what we project. When a child is born, all the alternatives are open; he is utterly free. He can be a musician, poet, wrestler, a politician, he can be anything an Adolf Hitler, a Gautama Buddha; anything is possible But sooner or later choices start coming and he starts moving in a certain direction. Then that direction remains his world. I have experienced over a period of time whatsoever has happened to me, I have been the cause of it. Sometimes it hurts that I am the cause the cause of  the negativity in my life & I wonder if I could have handled it better. I was also told there is no need to feel sad, because if I have learnt my lesson well, then I can ensure that the same things don’t happen to me again!

The second thing that becomes important is to be thankful for every situation & experience one goes through. Waking up each morning thanking the Universe for everything in life has empowered me to face whatever comes my way. I have turned into an opportunist…because I understand now that everything happening around me is an opportunity to grow! Learn from your surroundings, Swami Vivekananda said, and see how you can create your own path!

We essentially mirror the Universe. The vast intelligence that orders the cosmos is available to all. The beauty of life, wonder of living, is that we share creativity, intelligence, and unlimited potential with the rest of the cosmos. If the universe is vast and mysterious, we are vast and mysterious, too. If it contains innumerable creative energies, so do we. There is much unexplored potential in each of us.

There is infinitely more to life, and each passionate being who dares to explore beyond the fragmentary and superficial into the mystery of totality helps all humanity perceive what it is to be fully human.

Wishing all of you out there a passionate, eventful & positive day out there!!!